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Helicopter Parenting…Please Stop It!


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**Warning…I will be veering from my usual sarcastic blogging style in the form of a much needed rant!***

I was perusing the NY Post online, as I do every morning, and came across an article that made me cringe in disbelief.  Rich parents in NYC are hiring “play date consultants” to teach their children how to “play better” for private school admissions. These parents are actually paying these “consultants” $400 an hour to teach their children how to play and socialize  “correctly”!!!  The article states the following:

*Rheault’s pricey play dates involve groups of three to five 4-year-olds playing in a room. The experts closely monitor how the kids share crayons, color, follow directions in Simon Says, and hold a pencil. 

*Experts said that kids may need the play-date tutoring because their young lives have become so regimented, with classes in subjects like Mandarin and violin, that they don’t know how to play with others.

*“These children have five classes a week but they don’t know the simplest thing — how to be at ease and play spontaneously with a child,” said Wednesday Martin, who documents Manhattan motherhood in her upcoming book, “Primates of Park Avenue.”

*****Climbing On Soapbox*****

As a parent and a teacher, let me tell you a little something here…obviously this is an extreme example of “Helicopter Parenting”, but it is really no different than what I see on almost a daily basis from parents who cannot afford to spend $400 an hour on making their children “perfect”.  Quite often, I wonder if people have legitimately lost their minds when it comes to parenting.

My parents never did this when I was growing up, and unbelievably I turned out fine. (If you are in the 35-ish range, then I am sure your parents didn’t either!)  Not only did I turn out fine (alright…fine-ish), but guess what I can do?? I can actually think for myself, figure things out on my own, and function quite nicely on a daily basis without wondering what I should do every second on the day!  I understand that not everyone is going to like me, everything isn’t going to go smoothly in life, and I’m not going to get a round of applause every time I “do the right thing”, or a trophy simply for participating. I am perfectly fine with that premise, because that’s not the way society is supposed to work.

If you are a “Helicopter Parent” (and a good deal of you are, whether you chose to admit it or not), you are doing your child a great disservice in life. You may not believe it, but you truly are.  Every single time you hover over your child telling them exactly what to do and how to act in every situation, you’re making a big mistake. Every single time you do something for your child, like their homework, or their school project (by the way, teachers always know when you do that), you’re making a big mistake.  You may think you are helping, but in essence, what you are creating is a child who:

*cannot think for him or herself.

*will not even try to think for him/herself, because they have learned that is just easier to wait for someone else to tell him/her how to do things.

*will throw in the towel the second things get “too hard” because they have been taught that they will either be rescued, or someone else will come along and just do it for him/her.

Here’s a little free advice…

* Instead of telling your child how to think, perhaps you teach them how to think instead.  There is a VERY big difference between the two.

*Let them experience failure once in a while, even if it produces tears. It is those little “failures” in life that will make the difference. Those will be the lessons that make your child a stronger and better person in the long run. When your child experiences a “failure”, discuss it with him/her. You can go the “try, try again” route, or you can explain that everything is not going to go their way in life and teach them coping skills. That’s what will pay off big dividends…not you swooping in and fixing it.

*Let your child experience success on his/her own. Think about that beaming smile on a child’s face when they realize they “did it”.  It’s a great moment in a child’s life, no matter what that “it” might be. For example, riding a bike without training wheels. Think about that moment when you finally let go of the bike seat and your child unsteadily pedals away. It’s such a great, great moment for your child. They might pedal away happily, or they might fall down after a few seconds, but it’s the one thing that they are doing on their own!  Think back to when you learned. I know you all remember it…why, because it was likely your first true moment of independence. Teach your child independence in other facets of life too. As a parent, I get it that it’s tough to loosen the reins or let go. It hurts your heart a little to see that new found independence, but they need it. They will remember it. It’s essential.

and finally, and most important of all…

* Let your child be a child!!! Children are curious. Children do silly things. Children make mistakes. Those are all normal parts of childhood. Let your children experience the wonders and lessons of being a child, and let them learn from it. I look back to all of the times I played with my brother, cousins, and friends growing up and laugh. Now, if my mom was standing over me when we decided that the clothesline that descended down the three levels of our yard was perfect for gliding like a superhero (it wasn’t), or when I decided that I wanted a cast because it looked cool, so I dove off of the top of the monkey bars every single day, elbow first, for a week trying to break my arm (Unbelievably, it never worked, but it really hurt!) or went along with it when it was my turn to climb down into the sewer to get the ball we lost (Ewwww!), then none of those things would have happened…but they did…and I turned out OK..because I was being a child. None of those examples were pleasant lessons but I did learn something each time, and I still remember them.

Listen, I get it that you want the best for your child. There would be something wrong with you if you didn’t. As a parent, I want the best for my child too, and as a teacher, I want the best for every child in my class. The price that comes with it for my child and my students is teaching them how to think on their own,  learning to do things for themselves, experiencing both failure and success at their own hands, and experiencing various forms of independence. Is it always easy? I’d be lying if I said it was. However, I truly believe the positives outweigh the negatives in the end.

Think about it…what lessons are you teaching your children? I know we all have our moments of wanting to “fix things” or “do things right” for our children, and we’ve all done it at some point…but if it’s what you do ALL the time, then in the long run it’s going to be much more detrimental than it will ever be helpful….whether you’re paying $400 an hour for it or not. Society is headed in a scary direction in the future with the crop of someday-adults that are currently being raised with “Helicopter Parenting” techniques.  Sorry, but that is the absolute truth, and sometimes the truth hurts. (Another little lesson I learned growing up!)

Helicopter Parenting…Please Stop it!

*****Descending From Soapbox*****

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Happy One Year Blogiversary!


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Happy Blogiversary!

Happy Blogiversary!

Happy Blogiversary!

Haaaaaaappy Blogiversary!!!

Yes, today is my one year blogiversary of officially owning “Oh Yes They Did“!  Wow! Time sure does fly by!  In the past year, I have published 140 posts…most of which I am proud of..haha.  I hope all of you have enjoyed the ridiculousness of my blog….minus the couple of sellers that have sent me a little hate mail for featuring their creations.  Thank you so much for your readership, comments, and the fine topics you have sent in to me!! I do hope you will continue to stop by and see what’s new!

Here’s to another year of Unpinteresting Pins, Shitsy Products, What Had Happened Was moments, and Outstanding Obituaries!!

Cheers!

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You Suck at Parking Cards


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Look at what I found on Etsy today…You Suck at Parking Cards! Now, I tend to call things I find on Etsy, “Shitsy”, but I’m not going to do that here.  I got a chuckle out of this product.

That being said, would I buy this? No.  While I can appreciate the premise, when some jackass parks so close to me that I have to become a contortionist to get into my car, I really prefer to fire off my very own curse-laden salvo on whatever scrap piece of paper or receipt I have in my car.  I’ve placed my own little versions on said jackass’s cars over the years that likely made their eyes hurt.  The above cards are just way too nice for me! When I’m enraged, I need to let it fly!

However, if you are nicer than I am, and would like to purchase a set of 20 for $3.99, (not a bad deal at all) then head on over to Etsy  and place your order.

You Suck at Parking Cards…You’re not Shitsy…but you’re a little too nice for me.

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Wine Glass Calorie Counter…No Bueno!


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Welcome to December!!! Every day, up until Christmas, I will be featuring all kinds of “Oh No They Didn’t” Christmas related posts…be it crazy gifts or crafts. Consider it my very own Christmas countdown for you! Hopefully you’ll check in every day to see what happy little treasure I’ve found!

So, this is what I found on Pinterest today…A Wine Glass Calorie Counter.

Let me tell you something about this…If I go to someone’s house for a Christmas Party, and this is the wine glass they hand me, I am going to be PISSED! Why would you try to ruin my beloved wine for me? I LOVE wine. It is the nectar of the Gods and this is the glass you pour it in, you heathen???  Wine falls in the same category as birthday cake…there are no calories in either one…haven’t you heard? If not, you really need to get out more!

You know who does something like this…those pain in the ass nutrition freaks who HAVE TO tell you “how bad” everything is for you. “If you drink two glasses of wine, you’ll have to work out a little extra tomorrow to burn that off.”  Shut up…seriously. Guess what sister? I’m going straight for the “Who Cares” line, and there’s a good chance I may drink most of the bottle…because it’s a god-damn PARTY…and tomorrow, if my head hurts a little, I won’t even go work out. I’ll just lay on the couch with my extra calories making some new fat cells, how’s that?!?  Did you give the beer drinkers mugs with calorie counts on them? What about the mixed drinks glasses or the Egg Nog glasses? Are you ruining those for everyone too, or is it just me over here trying to enjoy my healthy wine? Did you put  little caloric intake signs next to all of the dips, cheeses, and desserts you put out? No?!? Then don’t do it to my wine glass either! Besides, wine keeps the blood flowing…therefore, I’m fairly certain mine runs through my veins like a freight train. Next time, worry about yourself. I’m good, trust me.

This wine glass is nothing short of a deal breaker for me.  In fact, it may spell the end of a friendship. ( Although in taking a mental inventory of my friends, I can’t think of one who would do this!)  It is entirely unacceptable! In fact, if you put these glasses out, I think it’s a written guarantee that you are no fun and your party is going to be a few hours of my life that I can’t get back. Thanks a lot.

Wine Glass Calorie Counter…I dub thee Unpinteresting!

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Pole Dancing For Kids…Klassy With A K!


I know I said I was only going to post on weekends now, but after reading this story, I knew I had to post about it.

What Had Happened Was…a Canadian dance studio named Twisted Grip and Fitness has decided that it was a fantastic idea to offer pole dancing classes named “Little Spinners”  for children as young as five years old. The owner, Kristy Craig, said that she “introduced the class because existing clients wanted it, and so far three girls and one boy have registered for classes, which start on Sept. 22. Her youngest student is 5 years old, the oldest is about 12 years old.” She says there’s nothing sexual about it, because (and I quote) “It’s pure fitness and strength and fun. I mean kids love climbing trees. They will climb anything.

Um, sorry Kristy, but climbing trees as a kid is normal. Swinging from a stripper pole isn’t. Any parent who signs their kid up for this should seriously have their head checked, and should go out and change their child’s name to something awesome, like Candy Apple. That way, when they someday become a stripper, thanks to mom and dad’s grand plans for his/her future, they will know it’s go time when they hear “Please welcome to the main stage, Candy Apple!”. I’m sure the parents won’t mind being reimbursed for all of those great lessons in singles someday,  right?

I have a feeling the talent shows at their local elementary schools will never be the same.  I’m pretty sure the schools don’t even have a brass pole lying around, but I have a feeling the charming parents of these kids will buy their little darlings a portable one, just in case. (You never know when one might need to do a performance.) Do you know what my daughter did last year at her school talent show?  Hula hooped, because that’s what a normal 10 year old does.

Way to go Twisted Grip and Fitness. You’ve sunken humanity to a whole new level with this one. Maybe you can get a reality show on TLC to rival Toddlers & Tiaras, and all of those other disgusting assholes they like to make famous. You’ll fit right in. (Insert sarcastic slow golf clap here.)

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New Posting Schedule


 

Happy Saturday everyone! Just wanted to let you all know that with school starting back up, I will have to change my posting schedule to the weekends. From September to June, I am one busy woman. I hope you will still stick around to enjoy my favorite Unpinteresting and Shitsy finds. Thanks again for reading my blog!

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